So I am dedicating a post to Love...remember I said November will see a lot of love on SuKupedia :) :) :)
Recently I read a very good post on Science of Love, No it was not by chance, I was actually googling for the meaning of love. I read a lot of articles and verses. But seriously practically not all of them made sense. So I started drafting out my own thoughts about what I thought Love was.
I have always refused to believe and propagate Love as a single phenomenon. In my opinion it is a combination, a parcel of lot of things. Every package named Love contains ingredients in them, some are compulsory without which the package is incomplete and some are optional which depends on the personal choices of the selector of that package. To me it clearly does not make sense when someone uses phrases like Love at first sight and something like bus yuhi hogaya yaar... Come on what world are we living in. Nothing happens just like that and that too especially with humans. In my opinion when someone says Love at first sight, it is clearly and only Physical Attraction !! And I have no idea why people scare away from saying that he/she is physically attracted to someone. Sight means to see and what you see is the external beauty. Beauty or good looks is again a completely relative word and depends on each one-s personal definition.
For me the important or compulsory parameters were surely presentable, respect, humility, God fearing, and family oriented character. These things I could never compromise on and I was very sure. And I am not ashamed to say that it was Ritchie-s good looks that got me to talk to him. If he did not fit my category of good looks then I would have spoken but not continued. Falling in love was a process for me. It started from attraction and then slowly covered all the parameters important for me to be in love. My father and brother were the standard for any man to be in my life. They might not be the perfect men for someone else, but for me it was important that the man of my life had reflections of some of their characters which I admired the most.
Financial independence was not so important, but a good education definitely mattered to me. Not that Ritchie had to show his resume to me :D :D, but in my opinion if you have not got your degrees then you should be Steve Jobs. Do not give me all those fundas that its school drop outs who make it big. Sure they do, but ask them and they have never employed a school drop out in their own company at Director level. They go to big league schools and career fairs to find their employees. My dad was a school drop out, and made it really big in his career but that does not mean he asked his kids to stop schooling. He always emphasized on academic performance. So since it never happened I can say that I was never attracted to a person who told me that he was a school drop out and DID NOTHING ABOUT IT.
Family has been so important to me always. My family can compete with Ekta Kapoor when it comes to drama and win an award. Each one is a dramatic character :D :D. But they are the reason I am there. Any man who would abuse his family and show me that he cared two hoots about his mom and dad will sooooo not even enter the list for me. The other things on my list respect, humility, and being a God fearing person were all seen in Ritchie through time. Do not ask me about his list, I do not know about his own list :D.
What I am trying to say is each one has some reason to be with some one. Falling in love just does not happen like falling down the staircase. You surely do get glued because of the first impression which would surely be physical attraction. Then you begin to progress. This whole process of love should be freely flowing between two people. Even the other person should feel what you feel. If not then the flow is only one sided and then the result is a flood. Flood of emotions, which turns into obsession for some and depression for the other. Whoever told you that you will know when you meet the right person in a single moment was joking. Probably that genius was drunk or not in his senses. No seriously yaar, it can never happen that you realise something so important as Love in a single moment. If you do not let that moment pass and remain stuck to that moment weaving your love story around that moment it will in most cases turn into disaster. Mainly you may realise that you were the only one who was weaving that story and the other person did not even know it.
Love is not a single moment phenomenon. It takes time to develop and if you do not give that time and want to hurry up things just because you are still in that moment all that you would get is a bucketful of emotions. When I told Ritchie for the first time that I loved him, what I really meant was ... Dude you fit the category and it would be nice to spend my entire life with you. If I have to be a little flexible about certain things then I am fine about it. There is no point in saying I love you and then for your entire life keep pointing out all the wrong things that your partner does. I am not underestimating the emotional quotient attached with love. Surely it has a lot of value. I love my man and would do everything to keep him with me and never let him go. But from the point I saw him to the point where I said MY MAN, the emotional attachment has increased from lower to higher. It was a process and still is.
And for heavens sake when you happen to see that special someone whom you get attracted to, DO NOT under any circumstance play any Bollywood or Hollywood songs in your car picturising yourself in the song. Wait till that moment of attraction has passed. It only happens in movies that even when you do not have a job, you do not have money to eat, even then when you see your girl, you imagine yourself in Switzerland with her. Get Real. Love and companionship is more than that moment. Remember that phrase which says, it does not matter where you are or how much you have, it only matters WHO you are with. Dear Readers, that WHO is important, do not let that decision be made only with your heart or do not let Shakespeare and Sharukh influence it either. You can leave them for later :) :)